We can be masters of our destiny as long as we have the courage. We do not all live in the same world because there are as many worlds as there are individuals. The question is no longer how the world is but how you are. Our problems simply come from our vision of the world that must be changed, modified. The pain of living is something we choose. This vision differs from determinism which justifies everything by the past. Here we are not interested in the effects of the past but in the purpose of the present. Is it because a person had a difficult childhood that they stay at home out of anxiety or is it because they want to stay at home that they create a state of anxiety? Trauma becomes a good excuse. We must not be hurt by an experience but use it to achieve our goals. We self-determine by the meaning we give to our experiences rather than being programmed by them. Past trauma has no reason to influence our present unless we let it and use it as an excuse. Some people stay in trauma to avoid being and invisible people. The pursuit of superiority is a good thing. We must not fall in front of the anticipatory fear that prevents us from achieving our dreams. We must use the feeling of inferiority to our advantage. If I am not good enough, I improve instead of giving up. Some people depend on misfortune and a supposed weakness to stand out. We must have the courage to be normal to free ourselves from the judgment of others, it is a liberation. We find ourselves special only because we compare ourselves to others. A community is defined by a common ideal. If we compare ourselves, we must do it on a normal scale (our past self and those around us, but not the whole world). Be what you want rather than being the best.
Alfred AdlerYoung people are afraid of the future, they no longer have any desire and do not plan ahead, even though it is the age to ask questions about the meaning of life, not to renounce and reject desire. This narcissistic suffering does not translate into a visible loss of meaning but into a tendency to withdraw into oneself or build a home. This is due to anxiety-provoking current events over the past 40 years, coupled with a decline in the level of education that reduces self-confidence and a narrative where the collective says that the solution is uniform (which means that their thinking is not important, that they are desubjectified). We must find spirituality and emotional connection, the latter being today commodified because of technology that governs life by numbers instead of imagination and subjectivity. Having no more internal resources, young people are more likely to resort to violence and radicalization to fill this lack of certainties and anchors. When adults do not know what a child is, how can a child know who they are and what their place is? The first role of an adult is to gradually introduce the young person to external reality so that it is assimilable rather than overwhelming. They are made to feel guilty about Covid and the climate when it is not their responsibility. They must be put in a position of research, not of shock. The problem is not the psyche of young people but the way of talking about it. Young people mental health will define the tomorrow's society. We must put social ties, play, and imagination back at the center. We must question them about their internal construction to change from the external entertaining over-solicitation. Giving value to one's desire is giving confidence back to a young person.
Marie-Estelle Dupont