Sex is an enjoyable part of life that most people never talk about with others. Prefer pleasure over meditation, it makes you feel good and strengthen your immune system while being more in line with modern lifestyle. Religions are rituals to connect with yourself, science is the exploration of life, yet both make sex taboo. The limits of your thinking will be the limits of your body. Build a bridge between abstract knowledge and practical applications. Sex isn't about sexual organs, it is about excitement. Your body has infinite ways to transform itself by practicing with intention because of its plasticity. Instead of focusing on orgasms that will inevitably come, focus on the pleasure that comes before. Pleasure is the goal, not orgasm. Are you conscious of what you do? Instead of judging if something is good or bad, start the conversation to connect with the other person feelings. The less sex is talked about, the less people are connected with themselves and therefore with others too. Sex is the smallest part of intimacy, sexual organs are the smallest part of the body. You don't need external stimulation to have internal satisfaction. When you wake up, ask yourself what would make this day great. Judgment prevents self discovery. Well-being isn't just visual. Practicing changes behaviors. Get used to seeing yourself naked to get used to your body and identify how you can optimize it. Prior to being sexual, the body is a body and shouldn't be hidden nor over-exposed. Small adjustments can create big disruptions. Non-sexual massages are great for partners to discover the each other and relax: increase your pleasure tolerance. Sexual energy is an energy like many others that can vitalizes your day and make you whole. Orgasm isn't the only end, not having one is a good alternative to keep the energy. Don't do sex, be sexual. Desire doesn't go away, it transforms itself. Ask yourself and your partner what is missing from your and their sexual life. Treat sex like a sport: learn new technique, train, talk about it with other, program training sessions, find your style. Foreplay is everything that isn't sex, it is a conscious erotic tension. We need intimacy more than we need sex, and intimacy creates desire for sex. Arouse yourself by touching your whole body without reaching orgasm to feel good, build a higher tolerance to excitement, and have more possibilities. Open your mind and explore, be mindful about your body when you use it. Pleasure is the opposite of stress, it makes you live longer and keeps you young. Perineum is the group of muscles responsible for male and female orgasms which can be strengthened like any muscle and whose size enhances pleasure. Sitting on the floor is better for the body than sitting on a chair. People should make their pleasure audible as it give feedback and pleasure to the other person. Instead of thinking about something else to delay orgasm, think about your perineum and reconnect with all your senses. Hunt your pleasure zones on your own in order to feel them more with your partner. Sex drive changes over time, hence it gives couples opportunities to rediscover themselves. School sexual education is incomplete as it only covers the risks but not the benefits which parents must talk about when the kid starts to discover sex. The more shame there is, the more you need to look at why. Ask questions to your partner to change your habits: Can I touch you? Do you like that? Traumas create insecurities that can be healed by touches from a trusted individual.
Chloe Macintosh