Cut assholes out off your life, don't try to change them. Deciding what is acceptable in your life or not is a skillset. Friendships aren't scarce because people are abundant. Most life issues are simple to solve but charged with emotions. The problem isn't the score but the scoreboard itself. Help yourself first before trying to help others. Fill others' cup with your cup's overflow. Don't stack narratives to hide a simple truth you can't handle, unlearn the bullshit you told yourself throughout the years. Willingness to move regularly is fear from committing to one place. Brains are prediction machines, develop comfort in not knowing. Seeing what is in front of your nose requires constant effort, both physically and metaphorically. Fear has a social value because it generates interest. Being liked for a performance brings more pain than satisfaction because it ties likeliness to not being yourself. People mistake intensity of emotions for positivity of emotions. Many intense moments have no meaning, like skydiving. What is your happiness level during dull moments? Obsession is driven by a fear of loss. It takes years to build trust but seconds to lost it. Authenticity is sexy because because you know the person can be trusted. What stories will be told at your funerals? Emotion is the most efficient productivity system: find what you love and let it kill you. What will you trade your time for? Be mission-focused, you don't need routines when you are aligned. Optionality generates uncertainty: is the path you've chosen the right one? Happiness is being satisfied with what you've chosen. True wealth is measured by the money you turned down. Love is the result of commitment, not the cause. Action generates motivation. Unwrap your layers and be ok with not knowing. Don't judge the emotion, feel the thing. Most people are good people, meeting face to face is the cure to online mistrust. Friendship in a marriage gives you the patience required to handle though period. People adopt as values what they get validated for.
Mark MansonWhat would you do if you feared nothing? Don't ridicule your dreams and dare, make freedom an objective, love life more than everything else. Get rid of lies, especially the ones you tell yourself. Chose hard reality over light hypocrisy. Don't spare your emotions, embrace them all fully: joy, sadness, fear, anger, embarrassment. Life isn't contemplation. Have nerve, do stuff, and don't care about the box people put you in. Laugh must be liberating, not mocking. You can be funny but not for everyone, you can be known but not for quality. Balance letting go and stress stimulation, risk taking and self mastery. There is nothing worst than comfort. Drive comes from pain. Don't focus on being the best, focus on being limitless. Build your life upon a few radical decisions: don't be limited by fear and follow joy instead of ego. Be rigorous in your approach to joy. Lack of problems doesn't mean happiness, lack of courage hits everyone. Joy isn't the opposite of sadness nor pain nor seriousness, joy is an inner energy waiting to be consciously called by you. Practice so much that the thing you work on becomes greater than you. Producing requires emotion. Be afraid of missing out on yourself and your life. Give your everything despite laziness and fatigue, explicitly chose drive and joy instead of hurting yourself.
Marie Benoliel