Are you truly fulfilled or just less lonely? If someone told you you’re a lot like your partner, would this be a compliment to you? Are you able to be unapologetically yourself or do you feel the need to show up differently to please your partner? Are you in love with who your partner is right now as a whole, or are you only in love with their good side, their potential, or the idea of them? Would you want your future/imagined child to date someone like your partner?
Chris WilliamsonEven your worst days are only 24 hours. Proximity shows you the problems and love decides whether you’ll look away. Are you close enough to see clearly, or close enough to stop looking?
Sherry NingInterrogate your frame of reference, notice how it shapes your perception, and try to hold multiple truths without privileging one perspective. How you receive someone has more to do with your own baggage than any innate quality of that person. You’re so entrenched in your subjectivity that you externalize the problem as entirely about others.
Elaine Wang