Don't listen to people you don't like as they don't have what you want. Focus on making money with things you love to scale them. Learn from other peoples mistakes. Don't fall into society placebo and norms. Hit the gas and go hard when things are easy instead of cruising. Pain may not be optional but suffering is, adding suffering on top of pain prolongs finding the solution. Avoiding or doing the opposite of something or someone is being controlled by it, so accept it and move on. Desire comes from lack. Actions to eliminate anxiety also perpetuate it so accept that you're human. What feels bad is often good for you and what feels good is often bad for you.
Leila HormoziShow kindness and generosity towards others, it will make them more likely to return the favor and like you as a result (reciprocity). Once they identify as a certain type of person with a small yes, people will act more easily for a big yes (consistency). People need proof to copy and trust (social proof). People are mode likely to be persuaded by people they like and want to be like (liking/rapport). People put up fewer filters and accept more things as truth if you have authority (authority), so build a track-record resume for life. Use limits to create another perception and frame with loss language like "you don't want to miss out on" because people have loss aversion (scarcity and urgency).
Robert CialdiniYou shouldn't care at the beginning because nobody's watching you and you'll be good when a lot of people are watching. It's easy to remember something when you care about it and use it. Care about your tap water quality, at least use a Brita. Start a conversation knowing the other has something interesting to lean about. Listen to others' feedback, especially at the beginning when you start, and become less sensitive to external comments as you gain experience. Declining birth-rate is the current unspoken-of most important topic. Vocabulary is king, so is being genuine. There is more in life than self-improvement. Trying to do something as best as possible allows you to overcome questioning yourself and your capacities. Things can be brutal and fun at the same time. The longer you stay single, the less likely you are to be happy with someone, and almost everybody will maximize his happiness by living with someone. Mating crisis can push back women fertility window and their realization will be brutal. Jack of all trades must do and try everything to explore what exists and find your passion(s). Research is me-search. Coffee can help you smash through weird psychological phases from time to time. Just sit down and do the thing. The difficulty isn't doing the task but sitting down and doing the thing. Being productive isn't instantaneous. Take 30 seconds to enjoy the work you've done before changing activities. To remember something, be interested and teach it to others. Get rid of booze if needed. To get good at something for example, do 100 repetitions (100 podcasts, 100 articles, 100 videos, etc.). You get good by doing. Getting tips and council is good, but most of the skills are built doing, the rest is the cherry on the cake. Regarding the self improvement journey, don't get caught in the gap between your old you and your future projected you but feel pride over what you've done. You'll become unrecognizable in a good way. A good guest as good storytelling, good communication, and a social presence to see if he's articulate, and having a new insight and a good vibe helps too. Your small current struggles will mean nothing in a few months or years so don't bother too much, be calm and resilient. Nature, sunlight, eat well, train, and follow your curiosity. A rich vocabulary means a better life; the limits of my vocabulary are the limits of my life. Do not sacrifice your happiness to work on something in order to achieve it. You rely so much on your limits that you do not even come close to them. What worked for us before will not necessarily work today or tomorrow. It is not greed that makes the world go round but jealousy, so we must avoid comparing ourselves to everyone, as comparison is the thief of joy. It is better to be known for your work than your controversies. Youth is more important than all the money in the world. We will not always know why we have a certain behavior even if it is good. Do not externalize the perception of its value but convince yourself of it. Beware of growing dissatisfaction due to a greater increase in our expectations in comparison with reality. Do not underestimate how normal people are normies.
Chris Williamson