Loneliness is as dangerous as being obese. Do something you enjoy doing alongside other people. Satisfaction in relationships and marriage is the best predictor of a happy and healthy life. Everybody needs at least one solid relationship, someone whom they feel they can count on in times of need. Practice social fitness as much as you do physical fitness. Strengthening relationships is a way to increase happiness, but also to build a safety net to weather hard times that all of us have in our lives.
Robert WaldingerYou’re not meant to know everything about everyone, not even your closest friends. You pay dearly with your sanity when you see things you’re not supposed to see. Privacy protects you, but it also protects everyone who might be burdened by the onslaught of your oversharing. We tend to think that the person being looked at is the one at loss, but there’s a mental tax on the voyeur as well. You don’t care, so why are you giving these things your precious attention and letting them disturb your peace as well as take up space in your head? Looking is linked to power, but also to punishment. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Arguing that you don’t care about the right to privacy because you have nothing to hide is no different than saying you don’t care about free speech because you have nothing to say. A lack of privacy hurts one person’s dignity and another’s peace.
Sherry NingYou have the choice to be happy or sad, you can be ill or dying and still celebrate life. You know you helped someone when he says "Thanks" instead of "Congratulations". When are not accustomed to real joy, it feels risky and hard at first. What is at play in the present moment? Live it fully with your child. True love works its way through hard time and consolation builds strength. Let your kids live without monitoring them permanently. Suffering is the most intimate feeling because it is the most personal, meaning it can't be compared with others too. Find your joy in the little moments. Death is part of life, it doesn't happen early or late but at the last moment of one's life. You do not have to like an activity to do it with someone. Employ real words for hard moments to be able to move forward, you can't escape your pain indefinitely. Love doesn't solve everything, even from a parent. Being a parent isn't filling your kids your way but letting them live their life and loving them unconditionally. Depression is a disease that takes control of the person. You are build to handle more than you expect, trust your emotions as they come. Understand that you won't understand everyone. Do not hold pain at distance by hiding in distractions, live it fully until their is no more pain. One time is an event but the second time is the beginning of a sequel. A small detail can make the whole pain explode. You are happier to see your kids grow on their own than when you force them to stay by your side. You can't heal from loss because it is not a sickness. Both pain and joy originate from love. It is because you cry that you can smile. The moment you share important traumas, people will never see you the same way. Don't define yourself nor others by their traumas only. You are not responsible for the state of the world, only of your happiness. Trust life despite the suffering. Add life to your days. You have memories because you had emotions.
Anne-Dauphine Julliand